Pregnancy Loss Counselling in Worthing & Online
Pregnancy loss is often an unspoken grief, carried quietly, with little space to talk about it, and it can leave you feeling alone with something that has changed your world completely.
Whether you’ve experienced a miscarriage, a stillbirth, an ectopic pregnancy or made the difficult decision to end a pregnancy, the emotional impact can be profound , and parents need immense compassion, understanding, and support to find a way to move forward.
What pregnancy loss can feel like
The loss of a pregnancy can be heart breaking and deeply personal. You may be grieving not only the pregnancy itself, but also the hopes, plans, and future you had started to imagine. Along with the shock and sadness, many women I support also talk about guilt, self-blame, or feeling that their body has somehow let them down. They replay every detail, searching for answers and asking themselves impossible questions. The reality is that many pregnancy losses happen without a clear explanation. When answers are absent, self-blame often fills the gap, and somehow it can feel easier to blame ourselves than to accept that something so devastating happened for reasons we may never fully understand.
When you’ve chosen to end a pregnancy
Deciding to end a pregnancy is often made in complex circumstances, whether medical, personal, or under pressure of time. It can be the right decision and still bring grief, guilt, relief, or conflicting feelings, sometimes all at once.
Fear of being judged means many people never talk about it and they hold all their emotions internally. Holding such a significant and often hidden loss can have a profound impact on your emotional wellbeing. Whatever feelings arise, every woman deserves the opportunity to explore them in a safe, compassionate, and non-judgemental space.
The loneliness of pregnancy loss
One of the most frequent things I hear from my clients is how lonely and isolated they have felt following their pregnancy loss. While life around you continues, your world may feel as though it has been completely turned upside down. Friends and family may not know what to say, and some people may not fully understand the depth of your loss. This can leave you feeling disconnected, misunderstood, and carrying your grief alone at a time when you need support the most.
How counselling can help
Counselling gives you the time and space to explore your feelings, make sense of your experience, and find a way forward while honouring your loss. Everyone's experience of grief is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
Counselling can also be valuable for partners and others affected by the loss. Those who weren't physically pregnant can sometimes feel overlooked, helpless, or unsure how to express their own grief. People often grieve in different ways, and this can place additional strain on relationships at an already distressing time. Counselling offers a space to acknowledge the loss, share feelings openly, and feel supported through what can be an incredibly difficult experience.
You can read more about this in my blog, Pregnancy Loss: Giving Voice to an Often-Unspoken Grief.
What it’s like to work with me
Before becoming a counsellor, I worked for many years as a nurse and health visitor. I’ve also volunteered with Samaritans and Cruse Bereavement Support and a Pregnancy Loss charity. I’ve sat with many people through some of the hardest moments of their lives, and I know the difference it can make simply to be heard.
Sessions last 50 minutes and you decide what we talk about. Some weeks you might arrive with a lot to say. Other weeks you may not know where to start, and that’s fine too. We can meet in my quiet, cosy campervan in Goring-by-Sea, a few minutes from the seafront, or you can have online counselling from home if that feels easier.
Nothing you bring is too much, too messy or too small.
When you’re ready to talk
If you’re struggling after a pregnancy loss, whether it happened recently or many years ago, I offer a free 30-minute introductory session. It’s a relaxed conversation, with no pressure to share anything you’re not ready to, and a chance to see whether working together feels right.
You do not have to carry this alone. “I’d like to book the free chat” is enough.